Cleanse yourself & your space with sage or Palo Santo.
Play your favourite album on repeat. (Willow’s “1st” is on deck today).
Light about fifteen candles of various scents & sizes. Set the mood.
Yoga flow in the warm light. Mostly stay in extended child’s pose for an extended amount of time.
Run a hot bath & pour in eco-friendly bubble bath & essential oils. Yum.
Spark up something special & slip gently into the water.
Pull a few tarot cards. Check in with the unconscious.
Read some sad poetry & remind yourself of how far you’ve come.
Dry yourself off, wash your face & cover yourself in coconut oil.
Wrap yourself up in warm, knit clothing & a fluffy blanket.
Play music from personalized playlists. (Spotify knows me better than I know myself).
Eat an entire Milka chocolate bar because you’re an adult & we can do things like that.
Write down three things you are grateful for. Let that chocolate bar be one of them.
Write down the reason you chose to take care of yourself today.
Write, write, write. And write some more.
Or, something along those lines. That sounds like a pretty good Sunday to me (if I do say so myself).
I’m sure you have heard the words “self-care” or “self-love” lately. There is, what I like to call, a “self-care culture” on the rise; which I am completely in support of! But, self-care looks and feels different for everyone. What I have described above is a typical day of rest for myself (usually occurring on a Sunday). When I find myself disengaged from the world around me, from the ground beneath my feet, I try to follow these steps to bring myself back to a place of light & love. To me, self-care is exactly that. Taking care of the self.
However, bubble baths & chocolate don’t always do the trick.
This past month has been challenging. I don’t think I’m alone in saying that. With deadlines, exams, and holidays around the corner, there has been a lot of tense and anxious energy surrounding me and the ones close to me. (Thanks, Scorpio).
In the midst of all that, I felt compelled to write this for you. I feel that intense energy lingering. So, I send this out to you and I hope to inspire a bit of self-care & love.
So, what is self-care?
Self-care can look like many things. Like, regularly attending hot yoga classes. Or, buying a litre of peanut butter ice cream & eating it all yourself. Or, it could even look like trying a new lipstick that makes you feel like a million bucks.
Self-care can also be much simpler (and more difficult) than all of that. For some, self-care is forcing yourself into the shower because you haven’t had the energy to do so in a while. Or, sitting on the edge of your bed in the early morning, repeating to yourself that “today you’re going to be okay.” Or, taking the day off work, because you really aren’t okay.
No matter what self-care looks like for you, it is a radical act of self-love. It is a selfish practice. But, it is necessary. And I’m here to tell you that is a wonderful thing. I like to think of all of us as growing green plants of Mama Nature’s creation; water yourself, give yourself light, maybe even talk to yourself!
As humans living in this cruel confusing world, we are repeatedly told we aren’t good enough, smart enough, talented enough. We are over-worked. We suffer from burn-out. We go to bed exhausted & then wake up just as exhausted. We are asked, begged & pleaded to give, give, give of ourselves. And for what? No, really. I’m asking you, dear readers, what are we tiring ourselves out for?
Now, it’s your turn!
Here we are, neck-deep in the holiday season. A season where we are asked (by whom, I’m not sure) to give, give, give of ourselves even more than usual. Be mindful. Don’t give too much of yourself. Pay attention to where your energy ends up. Remember to hold on to some of it. As we move into these darker months of winter, it’s crucial to surround ourselves & our loved ones with light (in whatever form that takes)!
This is my invitation to you to start your own Self-care Sunday practice. There are no rules in this space. This is between you & you (the most important person in your life). You don’t even have to start on a Sunday! Self-care can happen anywhere – any day of the week.
If you follow & work with the Moon like I do (or even if you don’t), this coming Sunday (December 17th) is the perfect opportunity to start your self-care practice or build upon your current one! We will be experiencing a New Moon this Sunday (and into Monday) which is an opportune time to check-in with the self, set new intentions, and release what no longer serves us.
All of that being said, anytime is the perfect time to start caring for yourself!
Here are some reminders:
You are so much more than everything that has happened to you.
You are more than a broken heart.
You are a force of nature.
You deserve to be taken care of. So, take care of yourself.
You deserve the whole world. So, give it to yourself.
You deserve to fall in love. So, fall in love with yourself.
I wish you all the best in your personal journeys in self-care!
With all the love in my big ol’ heart ~ zz